My thoughts, based on the Professional Guidance Cards:

The Tongue Has Power - Don't Abuse ItWeek 47: The Tongue Has Power – Don’t Abuse It

It is said that an unkind word can cut like a knife. In the workplace, as in the rest of your life, it is easy to fall into negative chatter about others. It’s not necessary that you start it, just that you participate in it, in order to fall short of your highest and best self. I remember, years ago, remaining silent as a good friend and colleague’s professional reputation was being called into question by some gossipy people at a trade organization meeting. To this day, I cringe when I think of what I didn’t do. And I made a vow to myself immediately after that I would never let that happen again.

There are three ways to go when you find yourself in a situation where someone is being attacked. You can come right out and defend the individual. You can directly say that the talk is making you uncomfortable. Or you can walk away from the situation, indicating in a more subtle way that you will not be a participant in trashing someone else. While the third option is not as empowering as the first two, it should be your absolute baseline. It’s the least I should have done in the situation I found myself in, and I still regret it.

This week’s intention:

As an empathetic person, I will not only not speak ill of another but will also encourage others to refrain from doing so. I know that my true character is revealed by how I behave when in a situation that makes me uncomfortable; therefore, I will follow my better instincts and rise to my highest and best self, refusing to be a part of this kind of negative and destructive behavior.

What is your intention this week, in keeping with this theme?

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